Of Clueless People Among Us by Konnie Enos

Yesterday, while considering ideas for my post I was reading some things on Not Always Right and found a lot of stories about people who simply had one brain cell left or just weren’t listening.

There was a whole thread on people who insisted that liquids like soy sauce and beer could not have gluten in them because wheat (gluten) is a solid and they are liquids. Yeah, too many people nowadays need to go back to school.

But there were also stories about people who simply couldn’t listen or somehow process information placed right in front of their face. One was about a person who called a company and asked to speak to a specific person. They were told that said person had died several months before but the person they were speaking to could figure out how to help if they stated what they needed.

They didn’t want the speakers help and  asked to be transferred to the dead person. They were told again that said person was dead. Their response was to ask if calling the next day would have better results in speaking to the dead person. They were told again that they were dead. Finally, they concluded with, “I’ll just call back Monday.”

I’m am quite sure that on Monday they had the same conversation because the clearly months dead person wouldn’t resurrect over the weekend.

I read several other stories were one party in the conversation wasn’t listening to or paying any attention to the clear information given them. One was about a lady who went to a restaurant and could not see or read several signs about what was on their menu, nor would she accept the statements about it from the cashier assisting her. She had to disturb the cook just to have said cook present all the same information she’d already been given. And yes, it was stated she was regular and did that every single time.

I was thinking such cluelessness wasn’t as common as this thread was presenting but then I was reminded that I live with such a clueless, often very confused person.

Anyway, while I’m reading these my husband explains that our gas tank is getting low. However, I considered what day of the week it was, and the complete lack of needing to be places between then and Friday, I assumed his concern wasn’t valid. (We fill the tank on our Friday Costco runs.)

Well, husband and son went somewhere, and later son calls me to tell me that we had more gas than husband thought. Instead of looking at the screen that says how many miles are left on the tank, like he usually does, he looked at the temperature. Which granted was well over a hundred but clearly less than the over 140 miles left on the tank.

So, my husband wasn’t paying attention to what he was looking at.

Well, later in the evening, as we’re getting ready for bed he asked me what was on our calendar for today. I clearly told him this post was the only thing I could think of but opened our calendar app and checked just to be sure.

While doing that he specifically asked about his doctor’s appointments. One of which I knew was on Friday because we’d already discussed how he was getting there since our daughter would need the car (for the Costco run). As for the other one, I was positive it was next week. It is.

After checking the app, I told him exactly what days both his appointments were and mentioned an appointment he had on Thursday. And I did say Thursday.

He was completely confused at this point and told me that tomorrow (as in today) was Wednesday, and he was sure his appointment was on Thursday.

I had to tell him three times that that’s what I said before he got that I was not saying he had any appointments today.

And the fact that he now needs hearing aids does not account for his clear difficulty processing information presented to him. We learned a long time ago that he tends to incorrectly process information given to him to the point that we no longer trust him to deal with our medical information or any service people who come to our house.

In fact, our son is now the main point of contact for our mobile phones account and out internet. At least he can comprehend the information to give and understand the answers given. And I’ve taken to listing my daughter as an alternate point of contact for my doctors should they be unable to reach me.

So, neither of these events presented me with knew information, just punctuated that I lived with a Not Always Right, clueless person.

Smile. Make the day a brighter day.

Sleep Deprived by Bonnie Le Hamilton

 

Burning the midnight oil takes on a whole new meaning when you’ve had at most 3 hours of sleep in the last 24 hours.

Insomnia takes on a whole new meaning when you can’t manage to close your eyes even when you are tired.

Having a brain that doesn’t stop isn’t helping any.

And I’m not able to get anything done! I can’t run errands; I’m too tired to get behind the wheel. Not risking that again.

The last time I tried to drive tired, I ended up totaling a decent Buick Roadmaster!

Man, I miss that car.

 Anyhow, I no longer drive tired. Not going through that again!

But that’s not the only thing I can’t do tired.

I also can’t balance my checkbook tired. I mean, math is not my best subject; balancing a checkbook is dang hard, at least for me. Tired, I can’t even comprehend the simple math needed.

Konnie doesn’t have my issues with math, so I’m sure fatigue wouldn't keep her from doing her books. Konnie was always better at math.

And the worst part is I’ve known I needed to write a post for a week; every time I opened my computer all week, I ended up dozing off, finally. As in no writing.

Now I’m so tired I can’t keep my eyes open, but something needs to be written.

I’ll just make this extremely short.

Happy writing, everyone.

Of Appliance Revolts and Repairs by Konnie Enos

Back in January, I wrote about issues with getting our Christmas decorations down, but at the end, I mentioned issues with both our washer and dishwasher. I mentioned wondering if, or when, our dryer or oven would join the revolt.

Well, now I can answer that.

At the time, back in January, we managed to keep our washer going, and the dishwasher was under warranty. It took the technician coming out a few times, but we finally got it back up and running. Though it was around that time when the part in our fridge that controls the light just popped out for some reason.

Fortunately, that was covered too. Didn’t take long at all for the technician to repair it.

Now as for our washer, it behaved itself until this past month (June), when with a sudden clunk it stopped spinning at all.

This time, not under warranty.

I called a repair service I’ve used before.

They honestly could have gotten someone here later that same day, but being a house full of neurodiverse people (and me an introvert), I opted for the next day. He came, diagnosed the issue, and was back out again in record time. He said he’d have to order the part and would let us know when he had it.

All fine.

Eventually he called, and we set the follow-up appointment to actually fix it.

Once he had the machine working again, we put it right to use because, guess what, it’d been out of commission for a week, and we all had piles of laundry to get through. Bedding being a major issue for all four of us. Then there were the towels and all our loads of clothes.

Well, when it was time to get that very first load out of the dryer so the second load could be put in, it was discovered that the dryer had quit working. It’s even older than the washer, so we called the repair place back up and had a new guy coming in the next day.

Do you know what happened?

THAT NIGHT we discovered that our oven wasn’t working either. It wouldn’t stay hot.

Fortunately, the repair guy was more than willing to check both appliances out. And the dryer was a fairly simple fix; just had to wait for the part.

Unfortunately, the oven, which at this point is our oldest appliance, would be less expensive to replace. So, we’re going to have to figure it out. And believe me, after spending all that money fixing the washer and dryer, it simply wasn’t in the cards to also buy an oven.

But, thanks to our “small” appliances, we’ve been able to manage. We can even muddle it if the stovetop stops working, which thankfully it hasn’t done yet. You see, besides a bread maker, a crock pot, and an InstaPot, we have an electric roasting pan. We also have a grill, though we haven’t opted for that option yet because my husband is the only one who can cook through that smoke, and he simply isn’t reliable enough to depend on him.

And yes, the roasting pan can even bake. I’ve made cornbread in it, and my daughter made a cake for my birthday.

The next step is to get enough money together to purchase a new stove. When my older son found out about our dilemma, he promised to cover it, but he hasn’t been able to get the money to us yet. I’m assuming we’ll have to wait until next month at least. We are pricing out our options, though.

But we found out when our dryer and oven would join the revolt.

And typing this made me realize we have one still functioning appliance that is older than every other appliance except our oven, which is still working.

Our freezer.

And if it stopped working, we would have to scramble to replace it very quickly because there is no way we could stuff all that food in the relatively small freezer section of our fridge. For one, both are nearly always stuffed full. But the very thought has me thinking we need to replace it BEFORE it dies.

All things considered, that should be our next appliance to focus on. Due to the sheer expense of it, I’m assuming another chest, since the preferred upright is far more costly. I do not relish the idea of diving headfirst into one, trying to reach something in the bottom of it.

Fortunately, I have three family members available who are visibly taller than I am. Two of them are six inches taller, but that half a foot makes a huge difference. Believe me. I am the only one in my household who can’t reach things on the second shelf without a stool.

Smile. Make the day a brighter day.

Autistic Rantings by Bonnie Le Hamilton

 

Do you ever have trouble not correcting people when they are wrong with verifiable facts?

My answer? Of course I do! Come on, I’m OCD and on the spectrum. Inaccurate facts drive me nuts. Which is probably why this dang AI trend is driving me crazy. I mean, this has to be AI because how many people are this stupid?

Not long ago I found another instance on Facebook of a writer talking about knitting and showing crocheting! In this case, he was talking about an actress knitting during her breaks on set, then eventually teaching her fellow cast and crew members to knit as well. He had a picture of the cast or crew member doing a specific handicraft while on set.

The problem is the handicraft was crochet, not knitting!

Get these straight folks – knitting takes TWO needles; crochet takes a single HOOK!

And if you can’t tell the difference between a couple of needles or a single hook – you need your eyes, and possibly your head, examined!

But that isn’t the only glaring error I’ve seen on Facebook recently, and repeatedly.

You see, it seems AI thinks any sibling that doesn’t share both parents with you is a stepsibling, which couldn’t be further from the truth.

If you and your sibling have one parent in common, they are a half-sibling to you. It is only when one of your parents married one of their parents, thus making the two of you siblings, that you are stepsiblings.

To put it simply, if you share a biological parent in common, you are half-siblings; if you are only related because of a marriage between one of your parents and one of their parents, you are stepsiblings.

I.E., some shared genetic connection means half, only being related through marriage means step.

I don’t know how much clearer you can get than that, but then I thought the difference between two needles and one hook was an obvious difference between knitting and crochet, but AI or stubborn fools persist in calling them both knitting.

Folks, that’s like saying sewing and embroidery are the same thing!

Which is absurd.

Sewing and quilting are rather closely related, but quilting is, after all, a subset of the sewing craft while embroidery is a whole other art form, even if both use tiny metal needles with these minuscule holes on one end.

It is a whole different skill set.

And believe me, I know what I’m talking about. I’ve done all three.

By the way, embroidery is a major category with a whole line of subsets, like cross-stitch, counted cross-stitch, tapestry, and others I can’t think of the name of right now.

And, yes, there is a difference between plain cross-stitch and counted cross-stitch!

Counted is way harder, period.

Another craft that uses needles is beading, but nobody seems to mix that up with everything else, even when you do beading along with most of these crafts, including knitting and crochet!

I have done counted cross-stitch with beading on more than one occasion.

It just baffles me that people can get two totally different crafts confused but can tell the difference between two very similar crafts.

As in, they know the difference between sewing and quilting (similar crafts) but think knitting and crocheting are basically the same thing.

In what universe?

And in what universe are stepsiblings a reference to any sibling who does share both parents with you?

I really need to know that one because Konnie and I happen to have two half-brothers. We share a father but not a mother. They are still our brothers, but they are not our stepbrothers.

We don’t have any step-siblings. Which isn’t to say we haven’t had them. Over the years we did have stepfathers who did have children from a previous relationship. Don’t ask me how many or how often, because they never had their other children in the same home as us. I’m only sure of two of our past stepfathers who had other children. In one case, we once ran into one of his children at the store; in the other, Mother mentioned his other children after his death.

Yeah, no relationship with them, but they did exist.

Now our half-brothers we lived with for a time. We were actually living with Dad when the youngest of the two were born.

And considering I heard from both of them on mine and Konnie’s recent birthday, we clearly have a relationship with them.

Actually, on our recent birthday, I heard from all our living siblings.

I emphasized “living” because that would have been weird to hear from the oldest of our brothers, and only full brother. Weird, and possibly a little scary.

I have five siblings. I heard from four of them.

Anyway, happy writing, everyone!

Of Memories, Celebrations and Birthday Cakes by Konnie Enos

Yes, this is the same picture for last week. Yes, it is now 50 years since Bonnie marched in that parade.

I have different memories of that day, mostly because I wasn’t in the parade. I’d chosen a place to watch from just after where the parade would pass through the old underpass. (I’m not even sure it’s still there.)

I chose this particular spot because of the shade. The high bank behind that side of the sidewalk was topped with some overhanging trees or bushes. Between the wall and the greenery topping it, it afford some protection from the sun. Since it was summer, and I can recall no clouds to speak of, heat was a given, and I do not like being overheated. Frankly, I did not envy my sister marching in the parade at all.

And as I remember, Bonnie was on the other side of the street when she marched past. I did see her, but she wasn’t close enough for me to say high to her.

I do, however, remember one participant in the parade who got very close to me, close enough I could have touch her mount if she’d paused a few seconds longer.

I can still see her, a young woman, all dressed up in a cowgirl outfit, including the hat, riding a beautiful mostly white, or at least very light-colored pony. The young woman’s hair was also very light colored. As she pranced over to my side of the road, the young woman smiled and waved at everyone, and I did the same back.

Now that in and of itself wasn’t remarkable enough for me to even think about after that day, even then I could remember seeing those ponies and how close she came to me.

But what makes it so much more memorable to me is something that happened much more recently.

You see, over twenty years ago we moved into our current house. In the process, we met a very sweet older couple. He was remarkable for his size. I’m sure he’s over a foot taller than I am.

She was remarkable because every single time I saw her, I had a very clear image of a young smiling cowgirl. And I could not fathom where I’d seen that cowgirl or why seeing her reminded me of the cowgirl.

I asked her where she’d grown up. Tried to figure out if we’d ever lived in or around the same area or went to the same college, at the same time. Just any reason why I would see that cowgirl every time I looked at her.

It was several years later when I was sitting in her house with her, her husband, my husband and one other lady just talking, while we waited for others to join us for a meeting we were having.

As I recall we got on the subject of memories, and or celebrations and somehow the Bicentennial was brought up. And this wonderful woman launched into a story about how she’d gone to visit her uncle and was supposed to head home that Saturday morning (Saturday, July 3^rd, 1976) but instead her uncle practically manhandled her into riding their last pony in the nearest Bicentennial parade. She explained that someone had gotten sick, she was a last minute, available replacement.

Possibly because she was talking about riding ponies, out of sheer curiosity, I asked her where this parade was.

My jaw about hit the floor when she said my HOMETOWN.

And it instantly dawned on me that I wasn’t seeing flashes of just any cowgirl. I was seeing her, much younger, but her.

She could remember being in the parade but didn’t remember anybody in particular she waved at. I obviously retained the memory of seeing her. And with another event to connect that distant memory to, I have not forgotten it since.

The only other thing I remember from that conversation was that everyone there was absolutely astonished that my husband and I were even old enough to remember the Bicentennial, let alone having been teenagers at the time.

I’m sorry, but twenty or so years ago, we did not look like we were in our forties.

Also, when I saw the picture for Bonnie’s post, I quickly placed who was front and center and exactly when it was taken. Then I attempted to get my husband, son and daughter to figure out who was in the picture.

Since they couldn’t see her face, none of them could figure out it was Bonnie.

And yes, I can remember the Ross Park picnic on the Monday after the parade, complete with our birthday cake, and the comment about it being for our country’s birthday. I told them it was for our birthday.

Smile. Make the day a brighter day.