Of Holidays and Celebrations by Konnie Enos

Where has the time gone?

It’s already November.

The time of the year when businesses start advertising all their Black Friday deals and gift ideas. The time of year when people plan gluttonous meals and go frantic about buying stuff. All to celebrate the season.

It’s the season for the idea that we must spend tons, buying piles and piles of what amounts to extravagances. All those things we would like to have but would never actually buy because we can do without them, they’re too costly, they’re not necessary. But somehow buying those things as gifts for others once a year is acceptable. The season when the planning and execution of one very large meal is vital to the well-being of everyone, somehow.

We put so much emphasis on the gifts and the food that we’ve lost the real meaning of this season of celebrations.

We do celebrate Thanksgiving with food, and Christmas with gifts, but we’ve lost the meaning of why we do these celebrations.

Why food?

Thanksgiving began as a celebration of a bountiful harvest and food, AND friends. But it’s not about the food, or the friends, or even family. It’s about giving thanks. This is the perfect season to count our blessings and see what God has done. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we all spent this month daily adding to our list of the blessings we’ve received. That’s the way to celebrate giving thanks.

Christmas is a celebration of gifts, family and friends, but more than that, it’s the celebration of CHRIST. Far too often people take Christ out of Christmas (literally and figuratively). Wouldn’t we all feel better about the season if we put him back into it?

Instead of focusing so hard on the gifts we give, or might get, how about focusing on giving Christ some gifts. We’re celebrating his birth after all.

What can we give him?

Our service. Serve others. Find ways to help and uplift those around you. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints sponsors Giving Machines during the season, providing us with opportunities to help people at home, and worldwide. Just Serve (https://www.justserve.org/) has opportunities to serve in your own community. Find one, or more, that you’d like to help and support and donate your time, or money. Ask in your own community, your church, or find ways to uplift others as you go about your day. A smile can go a long way and doesn’t cost a thing.

And maybe, just maybe, you can sit down and reflect on the life of Christ. Even if you don’t believe in his divine mission, reflect on the life he lived. A man of honor, kindness, acceptance, forgiveness, and boundless love. A man who quietly served, and taught, how to be a better person.

Then after you’ve done those things, maybe the effort you put into that big meal, or all those gifts will take on a different significance. Maybe you’ll stop fussing about the turkey cooked to perfection or the exact right amount and variety of side dishes and instead focus on the friends and family you get to spend time with. Maybe instead of focusing on buying that huge pile of gifts you’ll focus on the people you want to bless, serve, help, love be it with a small gesture, or a large one. But one that will greatly touch those you give them to.

Sorry, this is not only shorter than usual, but late. However, I’m leaving this here to give each of you time to think about how you’ll celebrate the season.

Happy Holidays, one and all.

Smile. Make the day a brighter day.

Of Birthdays and Holidays by Konnie Enos

 

Recently I saw a post where someone asked us to “imagine having a birthday within 2 weeks of Christmas.” Just think about having a birthday anywhere from December 11^th to January 8^th.

Well, that got me thinking.

I know a lot of people with birthdays in that period. I even know some people with birthdays in the first half of December who had complained about having their birthdays overshadowed by Christmas. The most common complaints were getting birthday gifts in Christmas-themed wrapping paper and or receiving just one gift to represent both events. This was particularly bad when it was relatives who gave their siblings two gifts a year, one for each event.

When I learned the due date for my fourth child (oldest son, Tony) all the information I had about December birthdays came back to me. But I had one as yet untapped resource, My cousin was born three days after Christmas, hence the same week my baby was due.

I had an enlightening conversation with my favorite aunt (said cousin’s mother).

She mentioned not only the two complaints mentioned above but also some family and friends who completely ignored that my cousin had a birthday. Yes, he experienced this, and yes, he noticed.

I took note. I even put my foot down. I told my family members they had to treat all my kids equally. Either they gave all of them both a birthday and Christmas gift or gave them one or none. But they could not give my other kids gifts and not my December baby. I wasn’t going to tolerate them overlooking one kid’s birthday just because it was close to Christmas.

I also told them I preferred that birthday gift not be in Christmas-themed wrapping paper. This meant that I could not use Christmas wrapping paper for birthday gifts. Now, as a rule, I could not afford a lot of wrapping paper so I wrapped most of my children’s birthday gifts in groceries bags.

However, one year I did find some birthday-themed wrapping paper and started using that. I ran out just before I needed to wrap my December child’s gift. I kid you not. Even the store where I’d found it before only had Christmas-themed paper in December.

I believe I resorted to using some plain red Christmas wrapping paper. He does like the color red. Now I plan to make sure I still have some birthday-themed wrapping paper when it’s time to wrap birthday presents for my December baby, and also for those people I give birthday gifts to who have birthdays in the above-mentioned period.

And yes, I have more than just that one cousin or my son, Tony, with a birthday so close to Christmas. Looking at my calendar I also have two nieces, another cousin, my son-in-law, my husband, and a sister-in-law and her late husband with birthdays between December 11^th and January 8^th. And those are just the ones I know about.

Then again, I also thought of all the people who have birthdays on, or extremely near, major holidays. Imagine people overlooking your birthday because it is within days of Thanksgiving, Easter, New Year’s, Labor Day, or national independence days (like July 4^th).

Try planning a birthday party on or near your birthday when it happens to be on or near a major holiday. All your friends ended up declining the invitation because their parents said, “that’s family time.”

Growing up, Bonnie and I had the best attendance at our birthday parties when we planned them for at least a week after the actual event. I think our biggest birthday party was when our big day was on a Monday, though just the one year, which happened to be 1976. With the fourth on Sunday, our town had a huge celebration on Monday. So it felt like the whole town was celebrating with us.

There are also our two youngest brothers. One was born on Labor day and the other on the last Friday of November. I’m not sure Labor Day had as much of an effect on my baby brother, but my other brother felt it. Far too often his friends weren’t available to celebrate with him because they were celebrating Thanksgiving with extended family.

So, as the Christmas season quickly approaches, I think not only about those numerous family members who deal with birthdays far too close to the event but also everyone whose birthday gets overshadowed by a major holiday.

As the holidays approach, think about the people you know who have birthdays on or near that major event. They want others to recognize their birthday the same way they do everybody else’s.

Smile. Make the day a brighter day.